April 1, 2004
Experiences with Impact |
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When
people in America think about the month of March, a couple of things
often come to mind. One does not even have to be a college
basketball fan to get caught up in the excitement of "March
Madness," and the quest of the 64 teams on their way to the
"Final Four." Another notable day occurs on the 17th ,
when rivers and beer suddenly become green, as people celebrate
the luck of the Irish on St. Patrick's Day. And of course, somewhere
around the 21st of the month, the season of winter officially ends
with the arrival of spring. Summer vacation is suddenly not quite
so far away.
Now
let me ask you this. Without checking your calendar, can you remember
what you did or what the weather was like this past March 11th?
It fell on a Thursday, if that makes any difference. For many people,
it was just another day, like most others.
Unless
you lived in Spain. For that was the day a few hundred people
in Madrid lost their lives, as a result of the attack of terrorists.
The cover of the following week's Newsweek had the headline,
" Europe 's 9/11." Many others in the media referred
to that terrible tragedy in the same light as America's dreadful
September day in 2001.
My
guess is you vividly remember where you were, what you were doing,
and for that matter, the weather (at least in New York ) on September
11, 2001. I would also imagine that many Spaniards and other Europeans
now have the same degree of detail carved into their memories about
March 11, 2004. For them the world changed that day, just as it
did for many Americans a couple of years ago.
You
have no doubt heard the timeless expression that "people learn
from experience." Actually people learn a great deal more from
reflecting on experience , not just having one. And the
experiences they reflect on and learn from most are those that have
deep impact on them personally and emotionally.
March
11th was an experience of great impact for many of the people of
Spain , much as September 11th was for most Americans. Those in
Spain will reflect on it and feel it for a very long time. And predictably,
it will affect them much more than it does most other people around
the world.
There
is an interesting lesson here as it applies to leadership. Leadership
is often about getting other people to change the beliefs they hold
about things. Leaders strive to get people to believe that ambitious
goals are important and worth the struggle. They labor over how
to get people to believe that uncomfortable changes can indeed be
for the better. They grapple with getting their people to deeply
believe that they can accomplish things that they have never done,
or even attempted before.
About
the only way to influence or change deeply held beliefs is to provide
people with an "experience with impact"; one that forces them
to confront or question the beliefs they currently have.
An
experience with impact touches you personally and emotionally. It
also contains undeniable messages or lessons, which you cannot casually
explain away. It can be one of great joy, surprise, pain, gratitude
or a host of other things. If an experience doesn't conjure up much
of an emotional response, you won't spend much, if any, time reflecting
on it, or examining some of your deeply held beliefs because of
it.
Over
the years in our leadership development work, we have learned some
very important lessons. One of those is that it is virtually impossible
for people to change their behaviors if their underlying beliefs
about why they should (or if they can) don't change. Believe it
or not, entertaining facilitators, snazzy materials, and slick PowerPoint
presentations very seldom reach people at the beliefs level. To
hit the beliefs, there must be opportunities for people to have
experiences with impact.
There
are a variety of experiences we have relied on to get aspiring leaders
to think about and reshape their beliefs about the value of leadership
and their ability to lead. Providing them candid, 360° feedback
and helping them draw insightful conclusions from it is one of those
ways. Many have discovered their beliefs about their own effectiveness
were not very accurate. That wake up call provided the need and
the fuel for them to change. They are now better leaders.
Another
experience with impact we have offered to some is the opportunity
to tackle a high ropes, challenge course. Many approach this with
apprehension (or even dread), based on beliefs that the activity
requires enormous strength and agility. They view it like an army
"Boot Camp" or an Olympic competition, certainly not something
necessary for becoming a better leader. And we know that the voices
in many of their heads are shouting, "you can't do that, you
are too old or too out of shape," or "this is really stupid."
But by the time they are finished, a remarkable transformation has
taken place. They have proven to themselves that their original
beliefs were somewhat misguided. They discovered they were not too
old, too short, too weak or whatever. They accomplished things they
did not believe were possible for themselves or others, and they
felt exhilarated because of it. That experience with impact has
enabled them to approach the world going forward from a very different
perspective.
We
have also found it critical to allow people time to reflect about
their experiences. It is those moments of introspective thinking
when their development kernels really begin to pop. That is the
time when they truly can confront themselves, and question many
of their own beliefs about their work, their people or themselves,
that might be holding them back. We have heard numbers of people
make comments like the following:
- I
was wrong about my ability to walk across a beam 25 feet in the
air. What other things might I be able to do that I have never
believed was even worth attempting?
- I
know Carl is deathly afraid of heights, yet he still climbed up
the ladder. I now wonder what else is he capable of that I would
never have thought possible.
- I
got zinged by my people on my feedback about not listening to
their opinions when they differ from my own. I am really bothered
by this, as I deeply value what they think. I have got to do something
about this immediately.
These
are all examples of people examining and rethinking very important
beliefs. This will help them become even better leaders in the future.
Here
is an important question for you to think about. Do you think these
people would have questioned their core beliefs as they did, had
they not had the experiences? Would occasionally hearing that they
don't listen to others very much or that they constantly pigeon-hole
the abilities of their associates cause them to believe the messages
enough to change? Hard to say. But like you, we have come across
people who have been frequently given this kind of feedback and
nothing happens. It must have been either not clear enough or important
enough to prompt them to do much with it. But in the examples just
cited, the experiences of receiving eye-opening 360° feedback
from associates, or taking part in a pulse-raising challenge course,
allowed the key messages to get through, even when constant communications
in the past had not.
A
helpful reminder to take with you is this: It is nearly impossible
to expect people to change what they do or how they do it if they
are unable or unwilling to change what they believe. And very few
people today, unless they have a compelling reason, ever take the
precious time needed to contemplate whether some of their beliefs
are, in fact, as valid and serving as they once were. Experiences
with personal, emotional and undeniable impact provide that compelling
reason. Relying solely on inspiring words or messages, even if you
are a very gifted communicator, is too often just not enough to
move people to see, think and act differently.
Reflection
Questions:
What
are some changes that you need of your people-individually or collectively?
What
beliefs might they hold that are keeping them from committing to
the changes? (How might you find out, if you don't know?)
What
experiences will you provide that will touch them personally and
emotionally, so they will more deeply embrace the need to change?
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